you mentioned here the “utility of love”, and the results that follow the two contrasting societies, one productive and effective, the other poor, broke, etc.

I also understand the confusing place of both wanting to believe in “love” somehow that a girl might actually not be lying or otherwise self-motivated to profess their love, and that they truly care deeply for you, would sacrifice heavily for you, and will not flake out on you or even undermine you…

and while we dream of that magic place, we struggle to trust it because we know the corrupt and inconsistent nature of people, including ourselves and our own selfish tendencies (which are generally a poisonous opposite to serving someone else, someone we love. )

We also struggle to trust it because we love to chase girls and slay some tail and do all sorts of dirty stuff, and the girls are just as capable of damage and destruction as well, as anyone who has ever met one or tried to love one knows very well.

Your hint at retaining a balance seems to make sense, the idea that we must both allow love to flow, lest we be robots, and we must also be logical and not lose our minds for “love” to where we ruin all sorts of key factors in our life for love’s sake, or the madness that follows when the pain comes.

this quote-

“”The best life comes not in the absence of our passions, but in our mastery of them”

is a favorite of mine and says it well. We must not be without a heart, but we must master it, lest we be mastered by it, and even more dire- mastered by a woman. Only if we master our passions, can we hold our positions well in life, and be the best of men. (and then love women more ideally)

Excellent observations here, Colin, and I cannot wait to experience the Colombianas. Even though they get burned for their efforts a lot, as women, the traitional, passionate latinas who understand a bit of value in a patriarchy… well, they are simply getting it right.

Women who serve men well are very fucking hard to leave or discard.

Its a miracle they are still so lovely like that even though so many of the guys there take it for granted.