Homosexuality in Peru

Posted on 22. Aug, 2008 by in peru

I spotted Daniel as gay immediately. Before I was completely sure I asked Carlos, who replied “Creo que sí.” I think so. He wasn’t sure after knowing him for over a year. He’s more convinced since I arrived given my joking on Daniel’s obvious homosexuality (e.g. Carlos asks me who I am going to the bar with and I tell him ‘the girls: Stephanie, Catalina, Daniel’).

Daniel listens to Madonna for Christ’s sake! How can people not know? I think the girls know but nobody acknowledges it amongst each other or even with him.

Don’t misunderstand me here. I’ve had lots of gay friends over the years, even good friends. And I’ve had friends come out of the closet. Daniel is good people. He’s absolutely hilarious. We hang out outside work. Since Carlos’ son was born, I have been eating lunch and becoming good buddies with Daniel.

Daniel once told me he likes negritas – black girls, which there are none of in Arequipa. Another time with the co-workers in a crowded bar, he told me he would point out a girl that he thinks is beautiful. He scanned the bar crowded with women and told me there were none. He seems to be putting on this front for me like he’s one of the guys. It’s so stupid that I have to listen to it. I don’t have a problem with gay people so much as I have a problem with gay people being in the closet.

One good gay friend told me I don’t understand and I should never ‘out’ somebody. I should respect their own personal timing. I’ll yield to the wisdom. But I have more of a problem with the fact that gay people would be afraid to come out in the first place. It’s a problem with society.

Latin culture is particularly ridiculous in this respect. It’s common for families to disown gay sons. They can become complete outcasts in their social networks. It may be better in bigger cities, but generally the Catholic culture is generations behind America’s. It’s ridiculous because of how obvious it is that Daniel is gay. Like I said, he plays Madonna every day and has her image on his cell phone screensaver. Everybody’s ignoring the obvious or their heads are completely up their ass. Somebody this gay in America would never be mistaken for anything but gay.

Daniel once asked why I like Peru. I told him I fit in better. Probably not true. He told me he thinks he’d fit in better in America. He didn’t explain why and I didn’t ask him. But he’s probably right. You can be as gay as you want. You can prance around to Madonna, hold hands or make out with your boyfriend, and meet lots of other gays. You can currently marry someone of the same sex in some states. Someday the whole country.

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4 Responses to “Homosexuality in Peru”

  1. Cesar

    28. Aug, 2008

    hey, warm gringo, i like your honesty, you had described my society very nice from your inside outside point of view, enjoy my country , enjoy Peru as i am enjoying yours, i am living in California two months ago beeing gay every day a little more, well i don like madonna and dont think that i move too much my hands while talking maybe i will never disconect from the macho latin brain program but i came to your country to fall in love… something hard to find in Peru out of 4 walls.

    i wish you good luck and eat for me as much delicious peruvian food as you can.

    un abrazo, huevon te cuidas…

  2. Colin

    09. Jan, 2009

    cesar –

    i hope you find love and a better life in america. as much as it’s not for me, the states will most likely allow a better life for you.

    ¡abrazo – cuidate – suerte!

  3. mkf

    04. Oct, 2009

    this is so true–i can’t tell you how many gay latinos i’ve met who are still trying to explain to their parents why they’re not married and producing grandchildren at 30. and this is in los angeles–i can only imagine the pressure to conform down there.

  4. MarkyMark

    17. May, 2014

    I work with a Peruvian woman. She’s a lesbian. I figured out this because of what she said and the way she said it; these reminded me of things an old, lesbian friend of mine would say to me years ago. Anyway, when I asked my Peruvian coworker if she missed Lima, she said no; she said she had NO desire to go back. Can’t say I blame her. I kinda figured that the Peruvian culture wouldn’t take kindly to gays or lesbians; your post confirmed it.

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